Is there such a thing as perfect parenting? Is there a difference between child rearing and parenting? Much has been expounded about parenting, the impact , the effect, the styles and the evolution of the same. However, there are are few aspects that remain certain and few others that remain vague about parenting practices in present times.
Parenting is a subconscious activity not an intellectual or an emotional one. Any philosophy or methodology on parenting that is thought, feeling or opinion based might not stand its ground for long. The knowledge of parenting is one that we are all born with; but an efficient process and system is something to be learnt and practiced through subconscious methods . Understanding this can make a paradigm shift in the way one approaches parenting. What is required is a deeper understanding of how parenting is a subconscious activity and what we can do about it as parents. Since the subconscious cannot be felt, understood or contemplated upon, an effective way to understand its programming is through the patterns of expression. If we can follow these patterns , we can reprogramme the subconscious. Such progressive changes start with the parent and expand into the life of the child.
Culture, accents, body language, physical structure, preferences of likes and dislikes, choices, habits are all basically expressions of subconscious patterns. However, all these seem to be imbibed through many years of influence and enculturation.
There are metaphysical processes through which the subconscious can be reprogrammed. Subconscious learning happens through repetitions too. For instances your math multiplication tables are “memorised” and memory is a subconscious faculty.
When Omnio Future was researching on subconsciously attained skills that are used in daily life, the one we came up with was “DRIVING” and it comes very close to parenting. We then designed a parenting programme that helps parents understand and improve their parenting skills through the analogy of driving ! And it works perfectly !
The understanding of ABC begins here. What are the controls? What is your vehicle? Where are you going? How is the road? Who is travelling with you? And last but not the least…. what is the ABC?
A – Calls for Active Parenting. This is in normal day to day situations. It corresponds to the Accelerator of a car !
B – Calls for Benevolent Parenting. For instance – if your child is chronically ill. It suggests a need for Being Aware and corresponds to the Brake in a car !
C – Calls for Conscious Parenting. It may call for a fresh thinking or paradigm shift . For instance – Involving a Lifestyle change.
There is also a Gear System in the Car . The Gear corresponds to Growth and Grace !
TEMPLE OF EXCELLENCE conducts Omnio Parenting programmes which range from short workshops to a week long course. These are available through both classroom sessions as well as online sessions.